Often times we find ourselves in a spot where we feel either lost or stuck. It could be that we are unsure of where we want to head in the future, or it could be we feel stuck and unsure as to why that is. Sometimes, we receive messages that we are not listening to, or we are used to a certain way of living, and the message or idea contradicts our life as it currently is. Finding yourself and realizing where you are or where your life is headed is not always easy, but it can be done. Knowing yourself, realizing what you need, and accepting that life will never be the same again will only help you become the person you always knew you wanted to be.
If you have experienced significant life changes such as relationship breakdowns, marriage, divorce, bereavement, redundancy, moving home, loss of a job or career, and are more confused than ever about who you are, you need to re-discover yourself. A “self-discovery” process is uncovering and recognizing the people, values, beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors necessary for you to achieve your full potential. There is a general misconception about this process – that it involves re-working your values. This is not true.
Are you struggling to find purpose in everyday life and find it difficult to set goals and follow through? Feeling lost, uninspired, or unsure of your direction in life? If so, you are not alone.
Here’s How to Find Yourself When Your Feeling Lost:
Get Clear on Your Goals
It seems obvious, but the first step is to assess what you want and why. Getting lost is all about “I didn’t know where it was I was going.” Who am I? I was lost when I had no goals, direction, or direction that I could see clearly, which gave me a sense of direction. This is a very common experience. But it is so hard to realize what to do about it.
Get Clear on Your Priorities.
Today’s society is so busy, and it can be hard to keep your priorities straight. Finding yourself can seem like an impossible task between work, school, family, friends, and everything else. It is easy to lose sight of your goals, and when that happens, it is much harder to get back on the right track. Finding yourself is all about creating what feels like life balance—a place where your priorities are in line with your core values, and you are living in a way that feels authentic and true to you.
Get Clear on What You Really Want.
Life changes for everyone, and often, those changes can feel uncontrollable. When your life changes or you experience a significant loss (death of a loved one, divorce, job loss, etc.), it can sometimes feel like you are in a fog. You might feel lost, alone, or like everything and everyone has passed you by. In these kinds of situations, it is helpful to keep in mind that you can find help in figuring things out. There are a lot of things to be lost for, but “yourself” is not one of them. Finding your own self takes effort but doing so will lead to greater clarity and a better understanding of your place in the world and your role in it.
Get Clear on Your Values.
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that feel out of control. If you are feeling stuck on a career path, a relationship, or life in general, then it is important to get clear on your values. Your values are the things that give you purpose and clarify your life. They help you focus, make choices, and live your life in alignment with your desires.
Get Clear on Your Self-Worth.
Everyone goes through a down period from time to time, even the happiest and most optimistic people. It is normal, and it happens to everyone. But how do we bounce back from those dark days? It is crucial to acknowledge these struggles and feelings and take positive action.
Seek Support
For many people, one of the scariest times in life is when someone they love dies. Suddenly, you are left with an empty place in your heart, and it can be hard to deal with on your own. Fortunately, you can seek the support you need from friends and family, and therapy can help. Therapy is a type of treatment that involves talking with a trained professional who can help you cope with your grief, loss, and emotions.
Losing yourself in your work is good, fitting in with your family and social life is good, and being good at your job is good. However, if you find yourself losing yourself, then it is time to find yourself again. So maybe it is time to put down your phone and go outside or do whatever your passion is and connect with who you really are once more.